How Should We Approach Love
Some Personal Thoughts
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.”
~Khalil Gibran
Love, at its inception, is often selfish. It starts with personal desire, like plucking a flower from a garden. You choose it, admire it, but in doing so, you remove it from its natural space. This is how love begins in marriage too—when two people come together, driven by mutual attraction and connection. But true love isn’t about the initial spark; it evolves into something much deeper. Over time, it requires sacrifice, commitment, and a shared responsibility. This transition from selfish love to unconditional love is what sustains a relationship. The idea of "soulmates" or "The One" can create unnecessary pressure and confusion, especially when we believe that we must find *one* perfect person meant for us. In Islam, marriage is part of Qadar (destiny), but it is shaped by your choices and actions. You’re not just bound to one person because they’re “destined” for you—you meet different people, some you connect with, and through that, you make conscious decisions. It removes the stress of finding "The One" and reminds us that mistakes, including failed marriages, are part of our journey. Love, in this context, isn’t about perfection; it’s about effort, growth, and learning to nurture a bond over time. Just as we don’t sit and wait for fate to decide every step of our lives, in relationships, we choose, we act, and we grow. In that process, Allah’s plan unfolds with every step we take.
Scribble #1
Oh, how I long to be free from these trivialities and carve a path back to you. I would trade my very memory for a few more fragments of time—just to run with you, sleep beside you, and reminisce in the quietude of green valleys.
We'd talk of everything and nothing under the cherry blossoms, as they bloom and take flight in April winds.
I would set time aside—no matter how rare—to answer your call. I would leave it all for you…
But not myself.
For if I leave myself, I am no longer grounded—and I cannot bear to drift again.
"Between what is said and not meant, and what is meant and not said, most of love is lost."
~Khalil Gibran